Wife Walked Away 10 Weeks Ago

[mahhhty]

Bob, You got amazing information and advice from 25. In reading your text conversation, I think you may have missed some of it.

"If you're sure you'll be happy never seeing me again then so be it. We had a great run together, didn't we?"

So, here is her reply to my text ^^^ the last paragraph:
"A pretty fair one, I'd say. Now, I just need my life back, and if you don't get what that means, maybe ask your counselor. Ciao"

Do you see this as you requiring validation from her (aka putting pressure on her) that you "had a good run?" She left b/c she didn't want to feel pressure from you. You have just reinforced that you haven't changed and continue to pressure/pursue her. Similarly, you did it condescendingly by stating "If you're sure you'll be happy never seeing me again then so be it." Like you said, she's never said that to you. So why say it? Did you want her to confirm or deny that she never wants to see you?

In regards to "I just need my life back" -- You'll never know exactly how she feels until she tells you, and you are able to listen. However, asking her to tell you is another form of pressure or pursuit... Two things you are supposed to limit unless there is an emergency.

I think you are making obvious progress. I think you should continue to try to learn and diagnose your actions and behaviors in the big picture.