OM doesnt really matter as when he first wasnt interested, she was busy trying to "show him what he's missing" and pursued a couple of other guys as well. In some ways it almost made her more determined to paint me as the bad guy.
whatever the deal there is she has no interest or care for me which is the bigger point. Although I am still wrestling the urge to ask about OM.
to be honest what I think i really need to do is stop caring whether she is warm, cold or indifferent and I'm getting slightly better at that. But the humiliation and distance still hurt.
as co parents I think we do ok. Both the kids seem pretty happy and although the exchanges aren't great fun, they are functional. Do I really need any more than that? Would any more than that actually do me any favours in terms of moving on with my life?
I want to be able to share my life with someone who wants to help me make ridiculous finger puppet dioramas out of stolen trousers; engages with me on my abstract tangents; understands and accepts me for who I am and helps me to understand what I need to do differently when I inevitably get it wrong. And most importantly wants to share their life with me.
Right now that most definitely isn't my wife
I think the ideas are good to do little things here and there but I guess it needs to be in the context of just being an all-round better man and better father. Rather than as an effort to improve interactions
The next 'event' is the anniversary of her dads death but I can't remember the exact date. Its around now though and I do think a card or something might be appropriate.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
