Well, I guess I'm only thinking in terms of trying to warm things up to a friendlier level with these suggestions, and that may be more about building better co-parenting interactions for now. In which case, I don't think what is happening (or not?) with OM is that central.

I don't see this as pursuit, more as trying to build a better foundation, put things on a better footing for the inevitable ongoing contact you guys have as parents.

But, as you say, if she's currently feeling all 'loved up' with OM, and possibly demonising you by way of justification, she may not respond positively. But I'm with Edz, is there any harm in trying a little something? Things couldn't be much 'cooler' than they are at the moment could they?

Is there anything your kids have said or wanted to do recently that you could use as a foundation? Like doing a bit of baking with the kids and popping some cookies in a little gift bag for your W? There's always Mother's Day coming up of course, but that's a little way off.

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