Definitely don't want you to go away. I appreciate the suggestions.

I was wondering about the pictures of the kids, I always used to do this but she stopped responding a long time ago. Now not sure of the reaction now - she doesn't tell me what she's thinking or feeling - I suspect she would see it negatively though. Like I was trying to compete on parenting or something

I did things like Christmas presents from them and a new house card from them when she moved.

I'm not sure I should do anything though as last I knew for definite (Christmas) she was still very much infatuated with OM1

Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress