Susana (5) - Stay the Night

[susana4]

Thanks Toots, Wonka and Starsky, you've given me some things to think about.

Wonka - I guess I feel I "should" set boundaries because I keep reading about boundary settings in other people's threads/sitches. But as my old IC used to always tell me "stop should-ing all over yourself". H has on the whole been very nice to me throughout our sitch, and never spewed.

Starsky - I'm going to spend some more time thinking about it. Off the top of my head, and Toot's list (thanks T!) the only thing is ML. I enjoyed ML the other night but it upon reflection it bothered me not kissing. I don't know if another occasion will arise, but if ML comes up again I would set this as a boundary.

Two things I found disrespectful in our M:
-he wouldn't always tell me when he was going to be home (difficult for me to plan meals). I brought this up in MC just after BD, and he's been religious about texting me since.
-he constantly forgets to tell me when he's going away for the weekend until the last minute. I don't know that this is something I can set a boundary on as there's really nothing to enforce (I considered this awhile back, in an earlier thread). I've made peace with it now, because I just assume he's not home unless otherwise told, and he's forgotten (or doesn't care?) to rescind my access to his google calendar so when I realised that I turned it on.