To be honest my thoughtlessness was because I was too busy being wrapped up in my own insecurities and feeling hurt. This is the core of her complaint about our M.
There were occassions where she said she needed me and I wasn't there because I (wrongly) felt I had to work and there were others that I dropped everything to do what she asked. Problem is she needed to ask because I couldn't tell what she wanted. That and I avoid or leave when things get emotional (don't deal well with this).
Its not punishing its just being hurt and a lot cr@p, so I guess I'm not like your h gg as I wasn't trying to hurt but still not great for my wife and she had said, I just didn't (chose not to???) Understand
But yes, I have apologised many times. For that and other things.
I like the idea toots but I'm not sure now is the time, before she moved she said she simply 'can't talk to me' about normal stuff. At the moment its just keep with the solid parenting, courteous exchanges and being flexible where I can.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
