So, I'm probably going to sound really stupid here, but how do you decide what to set a boundary *on*? I was struck by reading through Train's old threads, and other sitches on here, how important it is to set boundaries. And I've heard time and again how boundaries are important for your own emotional health. I've read articles on how to set boundaries, but the thing I can't seem to get my head round (and I know this is weird)...is how do you know what to set a boundary on? Obviously if there's an active A you're aware of, that's something that clearly needs a boundary. Or if your S is shouting or being verbally abusive.
But otherwise...?
I can't for the life of me think of something I want to set a boundary on in my sitch, with H. And I don't want to start setting boundaries just for the sake of setting boundaries, surely that isn't the emotionally healthy thing to do.
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
