Cool on the car v, we shall have to help you put together a playlist to listen to when,if, the weather improves (its hailing again here right now)!
And the bft?
I think what you've said on h is all you can really do bar giving up completely, accepting we can't control our various spouses is pretty much all we can do the real work as you so admirably show is working on ourselves and ensuring we know what boundaries we need in place to be respected and feel happy and communicate those.
As always v you're admirable
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015