Thread number five for me - my lucky number. Tiny recap:
BD1 - Mar 2014, EA discovered
BD2 - July 2014, H admits PA. I move to parents 2 hrs away
Jul-Sep 2014 - lots of talking with H, A continues, he's 'confused.'
Oct-Feb 2014 - Virtually NC. I rent a flat, build up my own life, no idea of A status
Feb 2015 - H made redundant. Wants to sell our house. Says he's been stupid, lost sight of what's important. Tells me our R is over. Contacts me again, asking (I think) 'is it over?'
Last edited by Toots; 02/21/1509:10 AM.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
And welcome to your new thread toots, what a note to end on a fetching new swimsuit
So is it to be a day of baking or did you find a gal activity for today (in my book baking is but you need to then distribute the baked goods to people,ahem, who like baked goods,ahem ahem)
What I'm saying here is....where's my cake?
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Well, it was a quiet day for Toots. Lots of reading (great crime novel), visited the parents and did a bit of shopping. I felt tired and had a headache, and think the drama of the week caught up with me.
Tomorrow will be busier. I have bookshop GAL in the morning. We're doing a big move in the shop so a bunch of us will be in there for a few hours doing that. Planning to go to Aqua Aerobics GAL tomorrow evening and wear my fetching new swimsuit.
I was thinking today about what has happened to me and what is happening to H. In a way, our lives have both been knocked right down and we are having to build them up from basics again. For me this happened at BD when I came to stay with my parents, I had lost my R, gave up my job and home, and have built up from there.
A similar thing is happening to H now. Don't know what is happening with his R - but he lost his job and we'll soon sell our home. Massive change for him too. Who knows how things will work out....
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Bookshop GAL, one of my very faves, especially if there is a coffee shop. My über fave is Foyles in London. I love your kind of bookshop with hidden treasures too.
I had a headache and sickness too this am. Stress too, but it is temporary.
New sassy swimsuit, look at Toots.
New thread and time for GAL.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 02/21/1506:18 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Nothing from H yet. I sent the email Friday evening....couple of days ago now. Good thing is I'm not particularly fretting about it and it hasn't been on my mind too much.
I had a busy GAL day today. I went into the bookstore for the morning, where we had a big move around. Then the afternoon cover person wasn't well, so I stayed until four. Then Aqua aerobics GAL this evening.
I guess I'm just reconciled that probably our period of NC has come to an end and we're going to be in more contact now. Either that contact will be about the ending of our R, or it will be about slowly working towards possible reconciliation. I don't know which yet - but I feel calm about that right now - which is good. The next contact may send me into a bit of a spin again of course!
Last edited by Toots; 02/22/1509:27 PM.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I hope you had a good day in the bookshop and at aqua. You didnt hurt your knee again did you?
If your NC period has come to an end, have you thought about sending your H a text today to recognise that its his first monday where he hasnt got a job to get up for?
It might be a terrible plan and too much pursuit but i know I feel good about the people who send me a text on days when they know there is something going on
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
