Welcome to the thread. Medical lingo totally counts - I'm a healtchcare analyst IRL - so I talk to doctors all day long about fun topics like "co-morbidities".
Originally Posted By: Underdog
As the kid of a cop, I can tell you it's not easy to be married to one. My folks are the only ones in their circle of friends still married. And even then, my mom came close to kicking Dad out when I was 17. It's a tough dynamic. I think we kids had it easier because we just believed he'd be ok. My mom struggled with it. My dad had a few friends who were cheaters. Serial cheaters. And I loved them. But they were adrenaline junkies and addicted to living on the edge. I'd like to think these men have/had regrets, but what do I know?
Well - I hate to say it - but I think one issue STBX had was that I might have been a little too nonchalant about his profession. Since I find comfort in numbers and statistics, I always found the studies that most cops never have to discharge their service weapons very reassuring. And, after all, its still a lot more dangerous just to be a woman than to be in law enforcement. I always slept perfectly well when he was working. I think he he craved the respect that his profession frequently engenders and didn't necessarily feel he got it from me, or at least not is the dosage he needed.
And, while it's in that same line of speculative thinking I'm trying to shake - I think you're on to something about the adrenaline junkies - definitely a possiblity in STBX's case. He certainly came home pretty jazzed up if he had to run a suspect down at work.
There's still a lot of mystery about everything he's been up to. The weird motorcycle accident that seemed to kick this whole thing off... and I wouldn't be remotely surprised if there were some one night stands sprinkled in or if the first OW came out here to visit while he was at a "training". Lately I fantasize that some day, 20 years from now, we'll be at a place where he can spill about everything- although I doubt he would even remember at that point. Honestly - I still have a bit of a tough time with the idea that I will probably never know.
