I have no desire to control you. I can only control myself.
I have decided what works for me.
I will not live in an open marriage.
I will be married to someone who is faithful to me and committed to working on our relationship.
My wife will treat me with respect and be civil even when we disagree.
My wife will be honest with me even if it's a difficult subject.
I will be with someone who will come to me and not turn to another man when the going gets tough.
This is what I deserve going forward.
Now, whether or not you can be that woman is completely up to you, and I'll understand if you don't want to.
I cannot control what you do; you are a grown adult woman, and are free to make your own choices.
All I can tell you is what I am will to endure in my marriage, and this is a personal boundary with me.
I love you, and I don't want a divorce, and I hope you will come back and work on our marriage with me, at which point I think you will find me ready and willing to work on any and all issues.
I do expect you to let me know, however, and soon, because I'm not waiting forever.
To be delivered in a very neutral tone of voice, no anger or cynicism.
Peter, this is pitch-perfect. Monitor your wife, and if and when she breaks no-contact (and she most likely will), deliver it. In person.
