U-turn, I think this is absolutely the time for you to be telling your W what you need in order to reconcile. I wouldn't wait until she 'offers' stuff or until you are further along. This is the prime time to be seeking IMHO - although I'm no vet:
Confirmation of NC - letter agreed and dispatched Transparency arrangements Anything further like MC which may help you move past what has happened.
It is great that your W is behaving as she now is, but please don't be scared of 'upsetting the apple cart' and fail to ask for what you need. If your W is absolutely serious about reconciling and repairing things, I think she will need some guidance from you on what is required.
Also, you say that your W isn't expressing any kind or remorse or has said she is sorry and you don't know if she will feel that way and you really don't need that - Really?
I guess what I'm saying is please don't put aside your own needs in order to keep timid squirrel coming forward and miss the 'window' to ask for what you need.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
