Wife during deployment EA/PA ongoing #4

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Oh lol. I caught up on your sitch and read the letter part and I was like "oh shhht" ...I thought you sent that. Thank god you didn't. It sounded way too angry and way too reactive.
Listen to starsky! Less is more by the way!
It really helped me recently to try to get into W's head and then be like "what would she think now if I'd say this or that"...often I realize it doesn't make any sense/she won't get it or take it serious at all what I plan on saying.
The problem lies in the word SAYING. We said too much but not enough. Actions speak louder than words. And if you need to say something, keep it short!