I will require complete transparency and proof of the end. I know she has not done this yet based on the answer yesterday.
I agree that there needs to be a transparency plan, if she stays under the same roof with you. I don't think it will do any good to request proof, b/c she would do like she did yesterday and supply you with an agenda and phone pictures. However, that would not actually prove she was in NC with OM.
I think she will waltz into the house and try to act as if everything is fine/normal. unless you bring it up, I don't think she will. But once you do say something, then she will either brush it off as if she took care of it or she will be angered by something you say. She may still be ticked over the kids. And if she comes home to find out you've taken the kids to their grandparents, she'll blow a fuse. Do not be afraid of her anger.
I believe it is very important that the WW wonders what her LBH may be thinking, or what he may do. It is important that he's running the ship and not waiting to see what she does.
I am not trying to get you into D court, but help you save your M. This week is going to be the most crucial, and your actions will determine how your WW will feel about you.
Remember this, it is better to have weeks or months of her strong anger & dislike for you, in order to regain the MR you want to have again. It is better to endure a temporary time of her wrath rather than live in a state where she plays you for a fool and continues to disrespect you. You have to be calm and use tough love with a WW.
Never underestimate a WAW in an A.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
