I wonder why this positive text upset you?? What?!
Originally Posted By: susana4
So, H just texted from his friend's house:
I'm going to stay at X's tonight because it is too much effort to get the train now. I hope you had a fun day doing all of your things. That snacks were really nice thank you he (X) thought the cookies were amazing!
1) H loved your snacks 2) H talked about your gesture to his buddies 3) His buddies loved your cookies
You scored BIG right there with both H and his friends. A lighthearted response like "I am glad that you and your friends enjoyed the snacks. Enjoy your time with X and see you tomorrow!" Light & breezy...remember?
You asked earlier about what I meant about the parallels between you and Train. Like your H, Train's H was on the fence about returning back to you and the M because of his not-so-good memories of the M.
Now...what I am saying here is that we all advised Train to re-attract H. This is what we are doing here. We are working with YOU on re-attracting H. I am very glad that you listened to our advice for it has made a very positive in H's love bank and his good feelings about you will slowly return.
You say that you did a 180 in not getting upset over the broken plate. Again, that is something that your H is watching very carefully in his head. He needs to see that those changes are for real and will be forever.
No spouse wants to return back to the same ol' marriage with same ol' arguments/fights. Your H needs to believe and TRUST that you will not blow up over small things. I am not discounting your sentimental attachment to those items...but they are just that...items. What's real is the love bond between you and H. That's real. Know what I am saying here, sweetie?
he (X) thought the cookies were amazing!