Susana (5) - Stay the Night

[susana4]

So, at the same way you were aggravated with your husband for is casualness,, your joke about going to different Starbucks… Same thing. - Ha, you are right, I didn't see it that way but we were both doing the same thing, really!

Thanks Z, one of the thing my DB coach has told me is that because H doesn't allow himself to feel negative emotions, I might have to help him define them. It's tough though, when I ask how something made him feel, and he just says "nothing". As hard as it was to see him angry, it is good that he let that out. He has a tendency to let his anger build up inside in a way that he admits is unhealthy, and then explode all at once with a year's worth of anger. (his words)

Thanks Zelda, I am going to reread the first page of your thread. It might be time. I feel he should initiate it, but on the other hand, with his conflict avoidance, not sure he will. Perhaps when I find the right time to bring up my critical b!tchiness, that will jumpstart a convo. But my gut is that it would be best for me to drop the comment casually, and see if he takes the hook to start a convo.