barely holding on - 7

[PeterV2]

Wow, U-turn. What a roller coaster. Seems we're running fairly parallel here, but my W has not indicated any desire to fix our M.

The only thing she said was she'll stop contact with OM. But she hasn't been home for the past 2 nights. I believe she is staying with girlfriends as she's been calling & texting me, but there's always that nagging feeling that she's lying and sleeping with him.

I need to bring it up again and tell her I'm not willing to live in an open marriage. You said you would end contact. I need proof of that. Here are 3 versions of a no contact letter I've prepared or you can write your own, but I need to approve it before you send it to him. And then I need to be able to see you phone and for you to open up your computer to me. If you're not willing to do that then it's over between us. I'll get a mediator involved to hammer out the terms of separation and divorce. - Maybe a little aggressive, but definitely stating my boundaries.

I really believe transparency is essential. But other think that the transparency plan should come from the WAS. I don't think that's realistic. Like Starsky says, it's time to take the lead.