You know this, but her head is her mess. Whatever thoughts are keeping the mess going...who knows. Yeah, it does stink. If pride/ego/too much water under the bridge are the reasons she's hinting at for it all now? Not reasons, excuses. If she was someone you could respect or wanted (your posts lately don't lean in that direction), and who was remotely trying to earn back what she destroyed...maybe her mess would be something for you to be interested in helping her with.
If she showed up on your doorstep tomorrow begging for her M, what would that look like to you, how would you feel?
It sounds like you've been in a great, great place taking your heart back Into your hands where it can be protected, nourished, safe...
Keep at it!
Also looking like spew and storms ahead but sometimes things get worse before they get better, in any sense.
Have a GOOD Sunday.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
