Another thought, (I'm full of them in the mornings)
Your H said he didn't feel like himself. As you back off and give him that space/support, perhaps he slowly has room to get to that place again. And you might be surprised he's not the H you thought you knew/had. If he feels he has room to be his authentic self around you, that could be huge, yeah?
Mine is playing the music he knows I hate, going out more, and also doing a bunch of positive things for him that are 'new'. It is ALL good bc he needs to see he's not living in a little cage of my ideals and preferences.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
