Plain Vanilla #9

[Vanilla]

Thanks for posting Karma, it did feel very naughty to treat myself.

Tried a 180 tonight. H I heard you say that you are lonely. So let's tackle that issue, what has V done to contribute to that? These are H feelings and his loneliness is for him to manage. However if he is blaming V for his loneliness then it is deflecting from H managing it himself.

So a couple of ideas occurred to V:
Advise H when V will be out
Cook more for V and ask H if he wants food (lately H has sat with V for meals)
Ask H if he would like to come along if appropriate
More contact at work
Ask H to undertake tasks


So, I decided let's ask H to join in on trips out in the expectation he would say "no". To my surprise he said 'yes'. We were going to see a live band in a newly refurbished pub. Band is usually good old fashioned rock.

H has already said he does not want to be seen out with V twice today. H drove; drank a couple of pints through the evening and was generally pleasant. V danced a lot as always. H said the evening 'made a change'.

V has the biggest crop of cold sores, stress related. Hey ho.

V