And please don't believe that just getting her to confess about OM ends it. If anything, it goes further with the announcement of how unhappy she has been for years, and bringing up all your faults.

You are not prepared to have such a conversation yet. She'll eat you alive.

Know what you are dealing with, and have a plan......before you see yourself pointing out certain things while confronting her.

First thing she'll do is catch you off guard, and then what? So, get a lot more DBing under your belt, first.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!