Hi Phunguy, I'm so sorry things are so difficult for you right now. It sounds as though you are doing all that you can to get through it as best you can. I think at this stage, surviving, looking after the kids and setting your boundaries are about as much as you can do.

You've been very firm and specific with your W and I hope she responds in the way that you hope she will. There are always risks with ultimatums as you know. She may decide to continue the A, and you may S. She may say she will end it and then re-connect with OM.

I guess what I'm saying is that few sitches seem to go the way of the A ending and working on the M at your stage. Sounds as though you're doing as well as you can do in hugely difficult circumstances anyway. Good luck to you. (())

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus