A troll is someone who starts an internet discussion to create discord and upset among people. I can see why that happened on the other site.
No one here is accusing you of that.
What I see right now is that your W has a job that you don't like. I can't really judge if she likes it or not, however, it is a job. And to her THAT is what is important right now.
What if she wants to work on the marriage but not give up the job?
How will you react to that and feel?
You are at a point where you need to decide for yourself if that is something that you can live with or not.
Because if you can't and you really try to reconcile this, I am afraid that your feelings about it will eat away at you and your M. They are right now.
Is there some way that you can separate it in your mind and really just look at it as a job and nothing more?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
