Dr. Laura has it in her "The 10 Stupid Things That Women Do". Both husbands and wifes should discontinue any relationship with old loves. It will only cause grief in marriages. I also saw a book about EA that says that women think that they can carry on a platonic relationship with male friends, but that something like 70% of the men in "Platonic" relationships try to make them "Physical" relationships at some point. Why risk your marriage? Why do you need this other guy in your life? I know how it feels, my wife also keeps contact with her ex lover. I know how men operate, and it will always eventually get to sex. Now if you are communicating with OM in a way that should be between you and your husband, then yes, you are having an EA with the OM. Honestly, what is it going to get you besides trouble?
