Happy, They have a way of playing you to see if you've changed at all since they went into crisis. They test us frequently and it's to see if changes have taken place are permanent and if we are still there for them. The reactions tell them everything. You have to learn to keep your poker face on when around him and try not to react to his behavior or what he's talking about. They love it when we react to their behavior, be it positive or negative.
So, try not to react to his behavior...it's going to be hard, but the ow is nothing but a bug that you can squash in your mind. Step on her and kill those thoughts each and every time the appear. She nothing but a band aid and one that was attached poorly. Don't give either of them the satisfaction of seeing you sweat. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
