Lastnight, H wanted to talk about our relationship and how I was feeling about everything. He told me I've disconnected and it feels as if there are three people in our relationship. He brought up a past lover and asked if I had contacted him. I told him that I had a few weeks ago via email. He asked me how he was and I told him that he's fine and that he's involved with someone. He then confronted me on my photos of him. I had taken them out of my photo album and put them away. Last week, I scanned them for the OM and forgot to remove the file from the computer. He feels deceived that I removed them from my album only to hide them.
This OM lives in a different province and is in a relationship. H is jealous and insecure about any contact I have with OM because he was my first love. He has made it crystal clear over the years that he does not like this guy and doesn't understand how I could ever have loved him or connected with him the way I did. I've tried to explain that he will always hold a place in my heart, but the contact was friendly and just out of curiosity. We emailed a few times and are friends, but nothing more. Is this considered an EA? In all honesty, I just asked him what he had been up to the past 11 years. He replied, filling me in, apologized for breaking my heart, explained the past from his POV and that's it... end of story.
H wants to start working on the marriage and doesn't seem to understand that I'm not ready to yet. I'm still sorting myself out and trying to work through my own issues first.
