The fact that BOTH of you recognize the problem and feel sorrow for the other in that recognition shows huge promise for a happy outcome.
Please both of you put the past where it belongs...in the past...make tommorow a new day and crack open your copies of dr if you have them and if you don't go buy them...they'll be worth the spare change.
Work together in finding yourselves.
There is no reason you cannot each re-discover who you are and also find again that happines you once sought in eachother. D is not the answer...it is but a temporary fix that only leads to more pain.
