I'm new to your sitch so excuse me if this isn't accurate but just reading this post ... You sound very angry. Sure you told W you were happy and not resentful but it doesn't sound that way. You could have easily said in a few short sentences what you wrote over and over. Sorry if this comes off as a 2x4 but if I were in an A with OM that message would not come off to me as someone who was moving forward.
I think right now you should sit back. If she responds to that I would leave it be for now and not say anything. I am not a vet though so let's see what they have to say.
