My boundry was I would not participate in an open marriage. Period.
The result? a long and painful separation and now divorce proceedings. I am still at the angry phase and look forward to it passing. But until then, I will use it to propel me forward.
My WAW is in her 6th month of her A and refuses to stop contact with her, so I had enough. That was my boundry. She chose the AP not me, not our two little kids.
I have read and been told many times that when WAW engage in affairs, they have already been checked out of the marriage for some time. I can't say I believe that, but it crops up over and over. Do you think it was a possibility in your situation?
Bottom line, to mirror Wonka, what is your boundary? How much are you willing to endure? That is 100% up to you and everybody is different.
