Quote: I want to be his best friend or as close a friend as possible, but no more than that. I know in my heart that no matter what he does, I'll never be able to truly be his lover again. It's gone. It's been gone since 1997. so now your admitting that it was once there? just want to be clear because you earlier said it was, then said it had never been and are now again saying with certainty that it ended at a certain point so therefore WAS there at one time. So if we are clear on that, I'd like to ask if when you did feel "madly inlove" or "in love" with h, did you think that feeling would ever go away? And if we assume that you did feel that way at one time why can't we assume that with a little bit of effort (even if most is on h's part to begin with (he seems willing to jump through hoops after all) those feelings could come back again. As painful as it is to say that, why is it painful? I know it to be true. I'm sorry. who are you sorry for?
Aquarian,
I want you to know though you may start to think of me as some overly pro marriage pain in the butt, I do understand how you feel...but I also know that things are not always what they seem.
Not that I think it an end all be all marriage saving bullet but I urge you to take a look at the divorce remedy/divorce busting books, even if you only look at what is available on this site. the divorce remedy first chapter
