4M - IMHO - whilst Starsky kindly posted 'signs' that you may see, it's probably not worth your time or energy watching or wondering about them. That just makes you feel worse, and keeps your focus on W, when it is best kept on you. As Starsky rightly said...and that point is a really important one.
Actually, the more you don't watch and wonder, the better your own life becomes and the stronger place you will be in if and when the A ends (and as you know most do.)
One thing that stayed with me is - I want to make a success of my own life during this tough period. If H and I reconcile, I want to do that from a place of strength and confidence, knowing that I would also be fine alone. That he is truly just the frosting on my cake.
If I've just spent months watching for 'signs' I don't think I'm in that place, because then my life is all about him and I'm still too codependent. For me (and we are S which makes it easier) it helped a lot just to let him go.
How does he feel about OW? IDK Is he still seeing her? IDK Is he flying off to visit her? IDK ...... Believe you me, if the A ends and your W hopes to reconcile, there'll be no missing it.
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
