U Turn, have you re-read the infidelity chapter in DR? That contains some useful stuff about the healing process and some things you may want to consider before you and your W talk further.
Pleased to hear that things are turning for you...
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus