W still having affair with OP #2

[4mendmj]

I don't know if Allen A is around anymore but still reading that thread with OfficerInNeed. Heck that thread is a monster. Something I picked up in there, I need to go back through DR from the beginning and actually have paper and pen out this time. Just something for anyone else on here and I continue to go back and re-read my threads for both reminders and advice so wanted to put that out there for lots of us including me.

I have not temp checked in weeks and I for certain will not be temp. checking any time soon either but would like to chat talk about W for a few minutes and am looking for opinions from vets. It has taken me weeks to understand that I am truly lucky W is still in the home as even a week ago I was trying to figure out if separation was the right move etc.

And I get it took us a long time to get here and therefore will take a marathon to come back. And I have been told multiple times that when W is nice to me like 8 days ago when she was chatty for 45 minutes, it was just to keep my plate spinning.

Soooooooo, what kind of things do I look for while I GAL and 180 etc for me? What would be a "good" sign for a WAW in the dead middle of an affair? IS there even such a thing as a baby step or is it, at least for now, all or nothing as to whether she will leave the affair or not? I keep being me and I need to give that time and I need to come up with some way better consequences slowly without bringing up D...but any advice on....4me, if your wife did this....it would be a good thing....

Thanks
Feeling good today, learning a lot about me, learning how I got here and learning that I can potentially effect change solo.