I did better at detaching when my W and I were S. Not seeing her everyday made it easier to slowly stop wondering about her and what she is doing. The peace and quiet allowed me time to think about myself.
We tried living together a couple different times, but it was way too early and I shifted from being independent to always trying to "force" the reconciliation.
My W even said that she did better and thought we were a better couple when we were separated.
I am getting a D and moving out, but I feel that this separation could be the only thing to possibly work for us to rebuild a new R.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15