Well I haven't suggested it very much on the board, but personally, I do think there are cases where two separate houses would help. The longer I read posts from people who label their stitch as "in-house separation", the more convinced I am that it doesn't work. The only thing separate is maybe sleeping in two separate beds. The couple may call themselves S, but I don't recall ever seeing where they actually acted it. I remember one case where the house was large enough it had separate living quarters, but then the WAS always seem to show up around dinner time. So, there you go.
I still say, Rzrback, you are trying to hold too tightly. And if your temper doesn't stay down a lot more, S may still be something to consider. Another reason you may not have wanted physical S was b/c you didn't feel like you could control things as well. As I see it, this all works together (holding too tightly, anger, and controlling), but it's working against you.
Back in the day, it seemed couples would almost always S to see if they could work things out. Today, it seems they head straight for D without considering S. Speaking from my own situation, if my H would have left my poor little WAW a$$ to go live somewhere else, I don't think it would have taken me very much time to make a decision on what I wanted.
Even when you are trying to get to the stronger piecing stage, I can see how it could be beneficial, for some, to live separately. Again, these are just my opinions. People have to do what works.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
