In two months, I will celebrate 11 years on this forum, dating back to 2004 when I was "Chocolateeyes." Between that username, then "Puppy Dog Tails" and now the Starsky one, I think I have over 25,000 posts.
Why do I bring that up?
To say that in all of my time here, the #1 mistake I see betrayed spouses make is allowing their wayward spouses back too easily. Most of them end up washing right back up on the same old beach in due time, some sooner ... some later.
There is no hurry, u-t; the only reason I was expressing urgency is so that you wouldn't AGREE to anything yet, since she's now brought this up two or three time.
Now is the team for deep gut-searching. Determine NOW what you want and need in the marital relationship going forward, paying close attention to the betrayal and to your own contributions to the conditions that led to it.
