Very good post Mozza. Human psychology is very complicated, I think it would be beneficial for all of us to learn some more about it to understand the works of our WAS's brains.
Confronting never helped. So I now stopped with that.
She is for sure protecting herself and her believes. Human psychology 101. She is misdirecting me too, I can see that. She feels vulnerable for sure and every time we discuss sth she is using dynamite to get away from me, to make me be the person that she wants to leave, for validation. Instead of helping to make this more livable she makes it worse so she can think "and that's why I want a D". But sometimes I got mysekf there, which is even better validation for her. So this needs to completely stop. I'm already much better about it which seems to make her even more angry...
To me this is mind blowing bc I have such a high emotional intelligence that I do t know if I could "trick" myself into believes like she does. As an observer this is very hard to watch. It hurts, disappoints. And for some ppl it will take years to realize, it'll take the same situation for them the other way around to realize, or they might never.
So ok I need a plan you said. What do you mean by that Mozza?
If you could become a narcissistic bast*rd who is only thinking of himself, gets his needs met without any concern for hers, she will start to see it.
