Susana (4) - Do you have to be confusin'?

[susana4]

You're doing great, Susana! Just keep being your best happy self, let him get a glimpse and come toward you. His pullback isn't anything you caused or can pull him out of - one of these wise vets said something about how he just doesn't know. All you can do is take care of you and let him come to the 'fool' realization if that's going to happen.

Re your tickle fights - we ML (euphuism for the more heated version) a few times during our separation, mostly begun in drunkenness. And then eventually the kissing and emotion started to happen. He wasn't as emotionally divorced as he wanted to be and I count this as a paver in the path back.
(Path back to misery currently, but hey.)

The same advice everyone's been beating me over the head with - give yourself some space so you're not hanging on his every word and action. Enjoy your GALing!

Hi Z! I've been thinking of you lately. I hope you are doing okay. hugs.

Thanks Zelda. You're right, I can't pull him out of it at all - if anything that would drive him away more. All I can do is be my best self and maybe that will draw him back but who knows.

Ha, yes, the lack of being emotionally divorced sounds familiar. (Sorry about the path of misery - stopping by your thread in a minute).

Thanks. I hope you are planning some GAL for this weekend too!!

At any rate, this situation is a good time for me to practice my patience (skill that needs work!) and letting go/not trying to control outcomes.

I'm trying to approach this from an attitude of curiosity - I wonder what will happen? Hmm, well let's just see.
Easier said than done.