Need some advice please

[Joe46]

I am also so confused on what to do in my situation for a 180. In the past I have not showed her enough support and enough love. She says she felt like someone to cook, clean and have sex with. I feel bad for making her feel like that. I never meant to. But with this job and the tension it is causing between us, do I completely detach? Or do I do like I have been doing, giving more hugs, telling her how wonderful she is, leaving nice notes, doing things for her and trying to make her feel special and loved. It seems to be helping her some. This is a 180 for me. I did not do this enough before. I am also listening better without always trying to fix something or give my point of view. It seems if I avoid her or don't do these things, she doesn't like it at all. I am also letting her see for herself the problems her job is causing. Not just with us, but the kids don't like it because they don't see her as much. And she is having problems with some of her co workers. And now having problems showing proof of income to buy a truck. Plus her pay keeps getting messed up. But I am letting her see for herself. I am staying out of it. I am taking care of me and the kids. Spending more time with them and working on me!!