Susana (4) - Do you have to be confusin'?

[susana4]

Are there any sort of guidelines on how long pullback lasts or is it entirely dependent on the individual?

I think it depends on the individual, the overall health of the relationship, and whether or not there are any significant outside influences. In a healthy marriage? Maybe only a day or two. In wounded relationships, or if anything else is pulling them away? Could easily be longer.

Don't pursue, don't smother . . . but call him out if he is downright sh*tty with you -- cr*p behavior is cr*p behavior.


Starsky

Thanks Starsky. Makes sense.

I will call him out on any cr*p. But he's never spewed so far so I'm guessing he will just continue to ignore me/speak minimally.

I'm just not saying much and not initiating any talk. He texted me at lunchtime to say the food was "bloody delicious" and to thank me for the leftovers from what I made last night but otherwise we haven't spoken.

I will be out GALing tonight anyway.