W still having affair with OP #2

[4mendmj]

Starsky...looking back now at the last 18 months I see how some of those attempts were almost successful but I lacked the follow through to seal the deal. Do you still think there is merit to Allen A's approach this far along into an affair? I have only read it within OfficerInNeed's sitch and it seemed the affair was new at the time.

I do see in your most recent response Starsky though that transition I have made in mind frame that has allowed me to start doing actions instead of just words and how post BD "newbies" simply cannot wrap their head around it. I am not even new to post BD but I am very new to actions not words type approach when it comes to this marriage. My actions were always just taking care of the problem (dishes etc.) and not actions that are solution oriented. Still learning, this grasshopper has a long ways to go but getting more and more courage and doing more and more.