Well this is the second time that I've posted and I'm having a hard time with this one. You see my wife feels like I would be happier with someone else and she feels like she has been not true to herself. She made reference to living in "Quiet desperation" trying to make it all work for the kids sake, security or due to finances. Our mariage has been missing something for a long time that both of us seem to be missing (passion, communication, tenderness, quality time together). Because our sexlife is suffering, the focus seems to be on this which maybe too soon and too fast. We need to go back to the basics. I'm HD and W is LD, I really thought that my top love language was pyshical, but I've been giving it alot of thought and now sure that WOA is number one. You see, I cherish the little gestures like a soft carress, a rub on the back after a hard day at work, a warm heart felt embrace. As an HD, if the physical is only sexual and not really mutual, that is not fullfilling, but if it is pysical was mutual and passionate inside and outside the bedroom them that would be fullfilling. I Love my wife with all my heart and soul, my happiness comes from her so it's been hard lately for both of us. I wrote my wife a letter not too long ago saying that I would do whatever it takes and that we would climb this mountain together. I guess I should have also told her that there isn't a rush as I'm willing and wanting a life time of happiness not a few quick moments. So I'm here to ask you "Aquarian" will you climb this mountain with me to happiness? To all the other members of the board like HD, SD, Corri, any suggestions that might help me try to better understand my wife.
Aquarian I LOVE YOU!
ConfusedH
