Puppy Dog Tails and Allen A are like animals in this thread. I haven't even made it very far in a monster of a thread and I already have some notes down and some ideas in my head. Had I not just challenged Complex to GAL and no magic bullets for lent, I would be doing a lot of what Allen A talks about in breaking up the affair from the other side. I would have never thought about it. I tried to break it up from my side but breaking it up from the OW's side is where the leverage comes from. You cannot control your W, but the influence Allen A references is incredible.
The thread is also sad, because it spells out that women are more likely not to return...they have already given their hearts to another. I do have some things going for me though...I am going to lis them out. My logic is that right now my W hates me so the things that are keeping her around are 1)D6 2)Financial stability 3) Because OW is a woman, there is some social implications there that keep that R from being "normal" ... OW always post crap (I unfriended and quit following all of them) stuff about this life may not be normal but it is grand and I realize how my W got sucked into that..but there is societal pressure there to keep W in the marriage. 4) It is time for me...it is time for ME to be the #1 reason though. I think it was Starsky said "if you don't GAL and consequences then W will just go to OW2 or OM1 if OW dumps her. Time for me...
I have been invited to a wedding this weekend. I am going to do something completely out of the ordinary for me. I already know/assume W has plans this Saturday evening but she has failed to communicate them or anything for that matter to me so...I am going to send her a message stating I am going to a wedding Saturday starting at 430pm for the evening and she has D6. My goal is to say as little as possible in the original message. She will probably come back with something like "I had plans or but but but..." and I will need to (in as few as possible words) say that since I did not know of any plans I made my own.
Then this afternoon when I get off work, I am going to the mall to go clothing shopping...I have a coupon for $50 off $100 and will go get some new clothes and then wear them out the door tomorrow afternoon to the wedding 180s for me??? Going in the first place... Not asking if I can go, just saying I am going....Going out a 2nd time in a week for the first time in over a year...dressing up for it in new clothing....
I was even thinking about having a female work friend that will be at the wedding posting something on FB and tag me in it that I was tearing it up on the dance floor! Total 180 for me...
Thoughts? It is GAL
Tonight I am going clothing shopping then picking up D6 from school then D6 and I are going to a hockey game.
Tomorrow D6 and I are going to see a kids movie at the local theater and build a fort and then I am headed to the wedding.
Sunday...still working on it.
Me:39 W:33 Married 6/07 D6 Found out about affair 9/14
to GAL and no magic bullets for lent, I would be doing a lot of what Allen A talks about in breaking up the affair from the other side. I would have never thought about it. I tried to break it up from my side but breaking it up from the OW's side is where the leverage comes from. You cannot control your W, but the influence Allen A references is incredible.