Ah Jim it's so obvious now, it was so simple I was overthinking it
Only used for coffee for me, dont do tea although I keep it in for others, im a bean addict clearly.
Dont worry, if you are concerned then work on that part of yourself, talk to someone you trust or book some counselling. I feel more myself now than I have in the past few years not because w left and im on my own (this is a drain on my PMA not a boost) but because I understood why I felt so bad and internalised (will always be an introvert but I'd totally burried myself inside and was in retrospect partailly zombiefied). In short recognise issues if you had them, by all means discuss with those affected if they will talk but dont dwell on worrying about it see how you can be better moving forward, that is all you can control and all that will be a positive change
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015