Jim, interesting insight into your W's train of thought and negative interpretations. It sounded to me like she has 'demonised' you - perhaps there's some self-justification for recent choices she has made.
I would never have been unfaithful had he not been so 'AWFUL!' If you weren't so awful, she has to face the truth of some of these choices. That they actually had something to do with parts of her that she may not want to face - and that's hard to do.
Better that you continue being demonic. I guess in time, and if you are consistent in your approach, it may just get harder and harder for her to do that.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Ah Ive solved it, they were sold on, dyed purple and turned into very long bed socks.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Its all a bit bizarre. W still occasionally raises have I got.... last time (few weeks back) she was in the kitchen and said oh you've got it. What I worryingly responded, this brandishing...a single teaspoon, not a collectable, nothing from a childhood long passed with roses and tea, an old spoon with a worn handle I'd grabbed when packing the entire spelunking flat by myself ive had this ages she said and pocketed it.
Sometimes, I do wonder....
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
OK I admit it, I took the trousers and used them to manufacture a finger puppet exhibition to chronicle the evolution of man from ameoba to our untimely future ending at the hands of our alien overloads. Currently its on tour in SE Asia.....
And you know what thats not the least credible thing I've heard recently.
For evidential purposes, last I saw them they were in a pile of laundry I'd folded. I definitely didn't steal them.
Edz don't go underestimating the emotional value of a tea spoon, I mean its a spoon...for tea....
On a slightly more serious note I do worry when I read Ggrass' thread. How she describes her H is how my wife describes me and if I was even vaguely like that (and to be honest it can partially be interpreted that way) then no wonder she is uncomfortable round me - it makes me pretty uncomfortable with myself to think about it in those terms. I dont know...
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Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress