Sounds like reality is starting to bite for your W. She had a 'vision' of exactly how S would work, and how you would 'fit in' to the life she wants right now. You live right around the corner, we have cups of tea, I carry on with OM.....

But, some of the things you are doing, just put a spanner in the works for her and she's feeling all that now. Plus, you guys are both having to face telling your D and that's hard. I would carry on with the 'moving momentum' and also do your best to be supportive and validating to your W.

You're doing well OTU - living up to what your thread title promises!

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus