Gal last night was skating with D8. Great time had. She had her new little boots on as well smile

When I got home I spoke to wife saying we need to tell d8 about what is going on as my tenancy is to be signed tomorrow so I can move any time after. Her face dropped when I said this. She was then again saying what else have I been up to. I told her I have been getting stuff ready to move and that ive bought a car. Laughably she said "more secrets, you need to tell me these things" I said why do I need to tell you? Im just getting on with moving, I have a massive list of stuff to do. I said you don't tell me anything and I don't want to know. She was very put out and started getting a bit irritated that im not telling her my every movement. She was even annoyed I hadn't told her I booked 2 days holiday to get all this stuff done. I said basically its none of your business really (being friendly). She was then bringing up d8 and how we co parent. I agreed we need to work that out this weekend before we tell her.
I said this wasn't my decision. She wanted to separate so im just getting on with it. She said she only wanted me to go back to the other house around the corner. I said that is not possible as too expensive and too painful. We both need to move on with our lives. She tried to say it wasn't her decision which I shot her down on straight away. All of this is her decision. The reality was dawning on her that this is going to happen. I could literally see the blood disappear from her face
She then preceded to try and say we would still see each other be friends popping round for cups of tea (she was sort of half joking). I told her this would be really nice but isn't going to happen. We need to move on. We will be friendly and civil for d8 have family days but I don't want her coming round or ringing me all the time. Again I could see that this isn't what she had in mind when she wanted to separate.
For the record my wife is not very good living on her own. She hated it.
I sat there looking at this person, she was frantically playing with her hair which is what she does when she is stressed and all i could think was "I hope OM is worth all this" I didn't mention our R, OM, I didn't get upset I held it together pretty well. I was firm about what I want to do. I feel I have detached a little bit more from her. My mind strays more now to the things I want to do when on my own and not to wanting this person back. Of course ill miss her but time will heal that.
Feel cr@ppy this morning as I dreamt about wife last night. She went on a date with someone (not OM) but this guy was also a smoker and I laughed and said you'll need some chewing gum, she hates smoking. Bizarre dream

Got a lot to do today. Finally get the keys to the new place. Need to pick some furniture up. Then im going to start taking stuff over, just things that are stored away so d8 wont know.


Me:40 W:35
D:8
T:13 M:10
WAW: 7/14
PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months
Moved out and moved on