I believe we are piecing...

[LovinUs]

Crimson & Zelda, thank you for the input. It means a lot to me to hear from you.

I am glad to know this is not such a strange situation - us being together and living apart. It is still not easy. And yes, Zelda, telling my wife to "get the f... out of MY house" was the marital felony. My wife has said she will not live here again because she cannot put herself in a position where I can throw her out again. Of course, we see what happened very differently...

One big issue has been her mother and adult children. She called her daughter when she flew out of here - and then stayed with her daughter's family until she moved back into her own house. So, her family thinks I am a monster and us being together is causing a problem. She says they are going to have to deal with it, or not see much of her. But I know the thought of not being in the lives of her daughters and grandkids tears her up. It hurts me, too. They are the only family I have and the holidays were nightmarish without them. Anyway, she made a comment this evening on the phone about not having family anymore, that their relationship is a problem because of me. She said that because we have forgotten things does not mean they have - or will. Her eldest has said she will want to talk with me, that she has some questions for me, but she is hurt and needs time. Upon my wife's suggestion, I called the elder daughter a couple of weeks ago, left a voice mail saying I was ready to talk when she was, whether we meet for coffee or speak on the phone. I have not heard from her since. I am afraid prolonging things will only make the situation worse and more tense.

My wife had lunch with her mom today, and I don't know what transpired with that. What I do know is I got up early this morning to have coffee with my wife before she left for work and we both enjoyed it - her telling me how much she likes having that time with me and it starts her day off right. And this evening, she is upset and hanging up the phone on me. Geez...