Reading Starsky's and Trains amazing posts about the "letting go speech" and Plan B" I think it fits in my sitch.
So, in my sitch I actually feel like Plan C, haha. Plan A is starting a R with OM in the future after D. Plan B is "staying alone forever" (W's words), staying single, career and enjoy life. Obviously no one wants to be Plan B and even less Plan C. Should make my letting it go even easier. Who wants to be Plan C........
I think giving her a I'm letting go speech is a great idea. I'm Not going to rush in it and find my own words, although you can almost copy most parts, plus timing is crucial a) for wife to be in reception mode and b) me on my a game in the means of not being too nervous, focused and calm.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15