I read your thread and I think you need to really start focusing on your part in things. If you read the DB books you should know that looking at your W's part in the breakdown of your M without addressing your role is not helpful. You cannot control your W's behaviour. You can only control your own actions. From reading your thread I still can't tell what your role was. You need to be more specific about the mistakes you have made in the R. Don't feel badly. When I started on DB I also focused on my W's actions too. I still do sometimes. I want to remind you that you're posts are anonymous. You have a habit of using euphemisms that obscure what you are trying to really say. Please elaborate on what your W's job is in greater detail and how you feel she crossed the line. ALSO, please tell us about the mistakes you made in the past. More details will be helpful. Until you start opening up, I am afraid it will be hard to advise you.
